The Lady Said No

Got this email yesterday:

Subject: Hello

Let’s get some coffee this week.

[The Needy Gamer]

The iPhone Dude

In my previous post, I mentioned that there were three people with whom I’d made dates during my brief return to Match.com. Only one of them handled my initial backpedal gracefully enough to have ended up with a date with me, and that was

Getting Back Into the Game

Before The Talk with LBHF, in a state of short-lived numb acceptance, I re-activated my Match.com account. I got more than a few hits, and was working on dates with a couple of different dudes, most of whom were not up to my usual standards of hotness/smartness. I quickly realized that my judgment was questionable at best, and that I was not ready to be seeing people again yet, so I deactivated it after about three days. I told the three guys with whom I had made dates that I had just gone through a devastating breakup, was totally insane and in therapy, and that I was still nowhere near ready to be seeing anyone yet.

Whoops.

LBHF came over this evening to keep me company. Somehow, we ended up making out on the sofa, after which we took a shower (I needed to groom myself, as I had not been anticipating such intimate company)

The Submission Wrestler

…is fantastic. I was skeptical about this evening and had already decided that, when the date didn’t work out, I was going to take some time off from dating to regroup. However, I was pleasantly surprised. I’ll give a brief rundown.

We were supposed to meet for coffee at a spot in Midtown (for some reason, I always mistakenly think it’s in Buckhead until I’m on my way there and am surprised by how much farther it is than I thought it would be) at about 9:45. Unfortunately, my haircolor appointment ran longer than I anticipated, so I texted him to let him know that I wouldn’t be able to make it until about 10:15.

My Mood Just Improved by a Factor of Ten

I was in a ho-hum kinda mood for most of the morning, thinking idly about exactly what punishment I would mete out to those that have slighted me if I were a supervillain (interestingly, most people just wanted to talk about what outfit I’d wear when I brought up the supervillain thing), but when I was hunting down some photos to send to C of my Saturday night, I realized that Mr. Saturday Night is also the dude that’s into Ayn Rand and submission wrestling. Just the phrase “submission wrestling” gives me a little chill! I tell you bitches what; that beefcake can wrestle me into submission any time he likes! Now I’m much more excited about that date than I was before.

We’ll see if I am, in fact, too bitter to enjoy being out with dudes.

Thug bred to be a beefcake-laya

I’m feeling much closer to sane now that my PMDD is on the ebb. I’d been somewhat psychotic since Sundayish, which is never a fun thing to be. I’m not entirely sure why, either, since he’d been pissing me off for awhile and I knew that a breakup was the appropriate thing to do at that point, but it still brought me down.

LBHF and I have made up, though we’re not together- just a “no hard feelins” kinda thing. I warned him that he needs to give me a few days before renewing contact with me, as I’d currently just be likely to harass him for sex. I’ve been really switched-on this week for no good reason. My working theory is that it’s because I’m not getting any. I always want what I can’t have, and something becoming unavailable to me seems to invoke a kind of manic obsession with it. It’s not a great way to be, but I’m working through it. Obviously I’m not ready for a committed relationship right now, so that’s not even an option for me. I’m just looking to have a good time.

The other bitches

The Ex is still not really talking to me. I saw him this weekend, when we exchanged some things (he gave me some paperwork and I gave him my key to the loft). He’s going through some shit right now, and I don’t take it personally.

Dr. Jones is also not talking to me. Fuck that guy.

OLB hasn’t popped back up since I ignored his last “goodmorning beautiful xoxo”. Good riddance to him and his freakish full-body stubble.

Mr. Grownup Date is working as much as I am, and we’ve had a hard time coordinating with one another. Now I’m dreading telling him that I don’t want to see him after all.

There’s also some other dude from matchdotcom that’s been emailing me lately, but he seems like kind of a douche. Still not looking forward to telling him to fuck off. He asked if I wanted to get together for a drink, and I haven’t responded.

Ex’s effeminate friend and I were supposed to get together for drinks last week, but I was sick and neither of us emailed or called the other to cancel. He ignores me on forums like Twitter, Facebook, and his blog, but emails intimately- I’m annoyed at this game.

Unusually Tall Indian Guy made a mix CD for me and hinted that he’d like to go out on a date with me, but didn’t actually ask. He also said that I seem tense lately, which caused me to worry for a bit about whether or not I actually am tense, until I recognized the irony of the situation.

Saw Satanist Waiter out with LBHF. It was less awkward than I thought it might be, though it was still a little awkward. He smirked at us.

AFF Waiter texted a couple of weeks ago to solicit me for a FMF threesome. I didn’t respond and haven’t heard back from him.

Abrasive Dude With Whom I Once Worked has been Facebook-messaging me in the middle of the night in attempts to get me to go drink with him. He’s pretty attractive and I’d probably be interested if my attentions weren’t otherwise occupied. A little sad about this one, but I’d feel guilty if I pursued it, I think.

No one else comes to mind- I think this is the full rundown.

OLB and Mr. Grownup Date

Oh- got another of OLB’s standard greets today. “Goodmorning beautiful!! xoxo”. Way too annoyed to respond to it. Wondering if he’ll just go away eventually if I don’t respond to him at all, but starting to doubt it.

Grownup date last week had to be cancelled at the last minute- I got stuck at the office until 9:30PM! It pretty much sucked, and the dude sounded like he didn’t believe me. I guess I don’t blame him, but I need to get some mileage out of those LBDs one of these days. Should I reschedule? He seems nice, but I just can’t decide. My time is at a premium as it is…

Grownup date rescheduled

That grownup date I was supposed to have on Monday was rescheduled because the dude had to work. His job is similar to mine, and he is working on a big international launch that is extremely precarious right now. We rescheduled for tomorrow night. Whether I will cancel and reschedule is contingent upon how bad I feel tomorrow, cuz I feel fairly crappy today.

Guy seems nice but is fairly unremarkable. Having a hard time coming up with a nickname for him.